Mgwirizano wa Zipembedzo: Kuyitana kwa Zikhulupiriro Zonse

Kugwirizana kwa Zipembedzo Zosiyanasiyana: Kuyitanira kwa Zikhulupiriro Zonse pa Wailesi ya ICERM yomwe idawulutsidwa Loweruka, Ogasiti 13, 2016 @ 2 PM Eastern Time (New York).

2016 Chilimwe Nkhani Series

mutu: "Mgwirizano wa Zipembedzo: Kuyitana kwa Zikhulupiriro Zonse"

Mlendo Wophunzitsa: Elizabeth Sink, Department of Communication Studies, Colorado State University

Zosinthasintha:

Nkhaniyi ikukamba za chimodzi mwa zinthu zazikulu zomwe timauzidwa kuti tisalankhule mwaulemu. Ayi, ngakhale ndi chaka cha chisankho, nkhaniyo si nkhani ya ndale, kapena ndalama. Elizabeth Sink amalankhula za chipembedzo, makamaka, mgwirizano wa zipembedzo. Amayamba ndikugawana nawo nkhani yake komanso zomwe ali nazo pantchitoyi. Kenako, amagawana momwe ophunzira akusukulu yake ku Colorado State University akuwoloka molimba mtima mizere ya chikhulupiriro ndi zikhulupiliro ndikusintha nkhani zomwe timamva zachipembedzo ku US America.

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Nkhani yanga lero ndi imodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe timauzidwa kuti tisalankhulepo mwaulemu. Ayi, ngakhale kuti ndi chaka cha chisankho, sindidzayang'ana ndale, kapena ndalama. Ndipo ngakhale zitha kukhala zosangalatsa kwambiri, sizikhalanso zogonana. Lero, ndikamba za chipembedzo, makamaka, mgwirizano wa zipembedzo. Ndiyamba ndikugawana nawo nkhani yanga komanso gawo langa lomwe ndili nalo pa ntchitoyi. Kenako, ndigawana momwe ophunzira akusukulu yanga ku Colorado State University akuwoloka molimba mtima mizere ya chikhulupiriro ndi zikhulupiliro ndikusintha nkhani zomwe timamva kwambiri zachipembedzo ku US America.

M'moyo wanga, ndakhala ndi zizindikiro zambiri zachipembedzo, zooneka ngati zotsutsana. Mwachidule chachidule momwe ndingathere: mpaka zaka 8, ndinalibe chiyanjano, ndinakopeka ndi ma donuts akuluakulu ku tchalitchi cha mnzanga. Ndinaganiza mwamsanga kuti tchalitchi chinali chinthu changa. Ndinakopeka ndi magulu a anthu oimba pamodzi, miyambo yamagulu, ndi kuyesera moona mtima kupanga dziko kukhala malo abwinoko. Ndinayamba kukhala Mkristu wodzipereka kwambiri, ndiyeno makamaka, Mkatolika. Chikhalidwe changa chonse cha chikhalidwe cha anthu chinazikidwa mu Chikristu changa. Ndinkapita kutchalitchi kangapo pamlungu, n’kuthandiza kuyambitsa gulu la achinyamata akusekondale pamodzi ndi anzanga, ndiponso kuthandiza anthu a m’dera lathu ntchito zosiyanasiyana za utumiki. Zinthu zazikulu. Koma apa ndi pamene ulendo wanga wauzimu unayamba kukhala woipa kwambiri.

Kwa zaka zambiri, ndinasankha kumamatira ku chizoloŵezi chotsatira mfundo zachikhazikitso. Posakhalitsa ndinayamba kumvera chisoni anthu omwe sanali Akhristu: kukana zikhulupiriro zawo ndipo nthawi zambiri ndikuyesera kuwatembenuza - kuti ndiwapulumutse kwa iwo okha. Tsoka ilo, ndinayamikiridwa ndi kudalitsidwa chifukwa cha khalidwe lotere, (ndipo ndine mwana woyamba kubadwa), kotero izi zinangolimbitsa kutsimikiza mtima kwanga. Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, paulendo wophunzitsa uminisitala wachinyamata, ndinakumana ndi zokumana nazo za kutembenuka mtima, pamene ndinazindikira za munthu wamalingaliro opapatiza ndi wamtima wopapatiza amene ndinakhala. Ndinadzimva kukhala wovulazidwa ndi wosokonezeka, ndipo kutsatira pendulum yaikulu ya moyo, ndinapitiriza kuimba mlandu chipembedzo kaamba ka kuvulala kwanga limodzinso ndi zoipa zonse za m’dziko.

Zaka khumi nditasiya chipembedzo, ndikuthamanga ndi kukuwa, ndinayamba kulakalaka “tchalitchi” kachiwiri. Ili linali piritsi laling'ono lokhotakhota kuti ndimeze makamaka popeza ndidazindikira kuti ndine wosakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu. Kambiranani za kusamvana kwachidziwitso! Ndidapeza kuti ndikungofuna zomwe ndidakopeka nazo ndili ndi zaka 8 - gulu lachiyembekezo la anthu omwe akufuna kupanga dziko kukhala malo abwinoko.

Kotero patapita zaka makumi atatu nditadya chakudya changa choyamba cha tchalitchi ndikuyenda ulendo wovuta kwambiri wauzimu mpaka pano - panopa ndikuzindikira kuti ndine Humanist. Ndikutsimikizira udindo waumunthu wokhala ndi moyo watanthauzo komanso wamakhalidwe abwino womwe ungathe kuwonjezera zabwino zaumunthu, popanda kulingalira kwa Mulungu. Kwenikweni, izi ndi zofanana ndi wosakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, koma ndi chikhalidwe choyenera chomwe chimaponyedwa mkati.

Ndipo, khulupirirani kapena ayi, ndine wopita kutchalitchi kachiwiri, koma “mpingo” ukuwoneka mosiyana pang’ono tsopano. Ndapeza nyumba yatsopano yauzimu mu mpingo wa Unitarian Universalist Church, komwe ndimakhala pafupi ndi gulu la anthu osankhidwa omwe amadzitcha kuti "akuyambanso chipembedzo," Achibuda, osakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, Akhristu obadwanso mwatsopano, Akunja, Ayuda, osakhulupirira Mulungu, ndi ena otero. osati omangidwa ndi zikhulupiriro, koma ndi zikhalidwe ndi zochita.

Chifukwa chimene ndimakugawirani nkhani yanga ndi chifukwa chothera nthawi m’zidziwitso zosiyanasiyana zimenezi zinandilimbikitsa kuti ndiyambe ntchito yogwirizana ndi zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana ku yunivesite yanga.

Ndiye nkhani yanga. Pali phunziroli - Chipembedzo chimaphatikiza umunthu wabwino kwambiri komanso kuthekera koyipa kwambiri - ndipo ndi maubale athu, makamaka maubale athu pamikhalidwe yachipembedzo omwe amapendeketsa masikelo ku zabwino. Poyerekeza ndi mayiko ena otukuka, US ndi imodzi mwachipembedzo kwambiri - 60% ya aku America amati chipembedzo chawo ndi chofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo. Anthu ambiri achipembedzo ali ndi ndalama zenizeni zopanga dziko lapansi kukhala malo abwinoko. Ndipotu theka la anthu a ku America odzipereka komanso opereka mphatso zachifundo n’zachipembedzo. Tsoka ilo, ambiri a ife takumanapo ndi zipembedzo zopondereza ndi zankhanza. M’mbiri yakale, chipembedzo chakhala chikugwiritsidwa ntchito m’njira zowopsya kugonjetsera anthu m’zikhalidwe zonse.

Zomwe tikuwona zikuchitika pakali pano ku US ndikusintha ndikukula kusiyana (makamaka ndale) pakati pa omwe amadziona kuti ndi achipembedzo, ndi omwe sali. Chifukwa chake, pali chizoloŵezi, kutsutsa mbali inayo, kupitiriza kusalana, ndi kudzipatula kwa wina ndi mzake, zomwe zimangowonjezera kugawanika. Ichi ndi chithunzithunzi cha nthawi yathu yamakono ndipo SI dongosolo lomwe limatsogolera ku tsogolo labwino.

Ndikufuna tsopano kuyang'ana chidwi chathu, kwakanthawi, ku mbali ya "ZINTHU" za magawowa, ndikukudziwitsani za zipembedzo zomwe zikuchulukirachulukira ku America. Gululi nthawi zambiri limatchedwa "Wauzimu-Koma-Osati-Chipembedzo, "osagwirizana," kapena "Palibe," mtundu wa mawu omwe amaphatikizapo, osakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, okhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, okhulupirira zauzimu, Akunja, ndi omwe amati "palibe chilichonse mwa iwo." makamaka.” "Osagwirizana 1/5th aku America, ndi 1/3rd mwa akulu osakwana zaka 30, alibe zipembedzo, chiwerengero chachikulu kwambiri chomwe chidadziwikapo m'mbiri ya Pew Research.

Pakadali pano, pafupifupi 70% ya aku America aku America amadziwika kuti ndi achikhristu, ndipo ndangotchulapo za 20% kuti ndi "osagwirizana." Ena 10% akuphatikizapo omwe amadziwika kuti ndi Ayuda, Asilamu, Abuda, Ahindu ndi ena. Kusalana kulipo pakati pa maguluwa, ndipo nthawi zambiri kumatilepheretsa kukhulupirira kuti tili ndi chilichonse chofanana. Ndikhoza kulankhula kwa izi pandekha. Pamene ndinali kukonzekera nkhani imeneyi, pamene “ndikanadzionetsera mwachipembedzo” monga wosakhala Mkristu, ndinakumana ndi zonyansazi. Ndinachita manyazi kuti ndasintha kukhulupirika kwanga, ndipo tsopano ndikuŵerengedwa m’gulu la anthu amene poyamba ndinawatsutsa, kuwamvera chisoni, ndi kuwapezerera. Ndinkachita mantha kuti banja langa ndi dera limene ndinakuliramo lidzakhumudwitsidwa ndi ine ndiponso kuopa kuti ndisiya kudalirika ndi mabwenzi anga achipembedzo. Ndipo poyang'anizana ndi malingaliro awa, ndikutha kuwona momwe ndimalimbikitsira nthawi zonse kuphatikizira zikhulupiriro zanga, kotero kuti mutadziwa za ine, mudzayang'ana mokoma mtima, chifukwa cha ntchito yabwino yomwe ndimachita. kuchita. (Ndine 1^st wobadwa, ungadziwe)?

Sindinafune kuti nkhani iyi isinthe kukhala ine ndekha “wachipembedzo”. Kusatetezeka kumeneku ndikowopsa. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, ndakhala mlangizi wolankhula pagulu kwa zaka zapitazi za 12 - ndimaphunzitsa zochepetsera nkhawa, komabe ndili ndi mantha pakali pano. Koma, maganizo amenewa amatsindika kufunika kwa uthenga uwu.

Kulikonse komwe mungapeze zauzimu, ndimakutsutsani kuti muzilemekeza zikhulupiriro zanu ndi kuzindikira zomwe mumakonda, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - musalole kuti chikhulupiriro chanu ndi tsankho zikulepheretseni kudutsa mipingo yachipembedzo ndikuchita nawo chidwi. SIZCHIKONDI chathu (payekha kapena gulu) KUKHALA pamalo olakwa komanso kudzipatula. Kupanga maubwenzi ndi anthu a zikhulupiriro zosiyanasiyana, mwachiwerengero, kumapangitsa zotsatira zabwino kwambiri pakuchiritsa mikangano.

Choncho tiyeni tione mmene tingayambire kuchita mwaulemu.

Kwenikweni, mgwirizano pakati pa zipembedzo / kapena zipembedzo zimadalira pa mfundo yoti zipembedzo zambiri zimagwirizana. Bungwe lina la padziko lonse lotchedwa Interfaith Youth Core, limafotokoza kuti zipembedzo zambiri zimagwirizana ndi izi:

• Kulemekeza anthu azipembedzo zosiyanasiyana komanso omwe si achipembedzo,
• Ubale wolimbikitsana pakati pa anthu azikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana,
• ndi Zochita zothandiza anthu onse.

Mgwirizano wa zipembedzo ndi machitidwe a Zipembedzo zambiri. Kutengera malingaliro ambiri kumapangitsa kufewetsa m'malo moumitsa malingaliro. Ntchitoyi imatiphunzitsa luso lopitilira kulekerera chabe, imatiphunzitsa chinenero chatsopano, ndipo nayo timatha kusintha nkhani zobwerezabwereza zomwe timamva m'ma TV, kuchoka ku mikangano kupita ku mgwirizano. Ndine wokondwa kugawana nawo nkhani yotsatira yachipambano ya zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana, zomwe zikuchitika pasukulu yanga.

Ndine mlangizi wapakoleji mu gawo la Communication Studies, kotero ndinapita kwa madipatimenti angapo pa yunivesite yanga yapagulu, kupempha thandizo la maphunziro okhudzana ndi mgwirizano wa zipembedzo, potsiriza, m'chaka cha 2015, anthu omwe amaphunzira pa yunivesite yathu adalandira mwayi wanga. . Ndine wokondwa kunena kuti makalasi aŵiri a zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana, amene analembetsa ophunzira 25, anayesedwa mu semesita yapitayi. Makamaka, ophunzira m’makalasi ameneŵa, odziŵika monga Evangelical Christian, Cultural Catholic, “kinda” Mormon, Atheist, Agnostic, Muslim, ndi ena ochepa. Awa ndi mchere wapadziko lapansi, ochita zabwino.

Tinkayenda limodzi kupita ku nyumba zolambirira zachisilamu ndi zachiyuda. Tidaphunzira kuchokera kwa okamba alendo omwe adagawana nawo zovuta zawo ndi chisangalalo. Tinalimbikitsa nthawi zomvetsetsa kwambiri za miyambo. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi ya kalasi imodzi, anzanga awiri akuluakulu a Mpingo wa Yesu Khristu wa Otsatira a Masiku Otsiriza, anabwera ndi kuyankha funso lirilonse lomwe linafunsidwa kwa iwo ndi gulu langa lachidwi la zaka 19 zakubadwa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti aliyense adachoka m'chipindamo movomereza, zikutanthauza kuti tinachoka m'chipindamo ndikumvetsetsa kwenikweni. Ndipo dziko likusowa zambiri za izo.

Ophunzira ankafunsa mafunso ovuta monga akuti “Kodi zipembedzo zonse zimatsatira chinthu chimodzi?” (Ayi!) ndi “Kodi timapita bwanji patsogolo pomwe tangozindikira kuti sitingathe onse kukhala bwino?"

Monga kalasi, tinkatumikiranso. Mogwirizana ndi magulu ena achipembedzo a ana asukulu, tinasiya utumiki wa “Interfaith Thanksgiving” womwe unkachita bwino kwambiri. Ndi thandizo lazachuma la Fort Collins Interfaith Council ndi mabungwe ena, ophunzira adaphika chakudya cha Thanksgiving cha kosher, chopanda gluteni chokhala ndi zosankha za vegan kwa anthu opitilira 160.

Kumapeto kwa semester, ophunzira anati:

“…Sindinazindikire kuti pali anthu ambiri osakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, chifukwa sindimazindikira kuti anthu osakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu amafanana ndi ine. Pazifukwa zina zodabwitsa, ndinaganiza kuti munthu wosakhulupirira Mulungu angaoneke ngati wasayansi wamisala.”

"Ndinadabwa kukwiyira anzanga a m'kalasi chifukwa cha zinthu zina zomwe amakhulupirira ... Ichi chinali chinachake chimene chinandilankhula chifukwa ndinazindikira kuti ndinali ndi tsankho kuposa momwe ndimaganizira."

“Kuphatikiza zipembedzo kunandiphunzitsa mmene ndingakhalire pa mlatho wa zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana osati ku mbali ya chipembedzo chimodzi.”

Pamapeto pake, pulogalamuyi ndi yopambana kuchokera kwa ophunzira ndi utsogoleri; ndipo idzapitirira, ndi chiyembekezo cha kukula m’zaka zingapo zikubwerazi.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndatsindika lero, kuti mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, chipembedzo ndi chinthu chomwe tiyenera kukambirana. Tikayamba kuzindikira kuti anthu a chikhulupiriro CHONSE akuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino komanso wamakhalidwe abwino, PALI pomwe nkhaniyo imasintha. Tili bwino limodzi.

Ndikukutsutsani kuti mupange bwenzi latsopano ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi zikhulupiriro zauzimu zosiyana ndi inu ndipo palimodzi, sinthani nkhaniyo. Ndipo musaiwale za donuts!

Elizabeth Sink amachokera ku Midwest, komwe adamaliza maphunziro ake mu 1999 ndi digiri ya Bachelors mu Interdisciplinary Communication Studies kuchokera ku Aquinas College, ku Grand Rapids, Michigan. Anamaliza maphunziro ake a Masters mu Communication Studies ku Colorado State University ku 2006 ndipo wakhala akuphunzitsa kumeneko kuyambira pamenepo.

Maphunziro ake aposachedwa, kaphunzitsidwe, mapulogalamu ndi maphunziro awo amaganizira za chikhalidwe chathu, chikhalidwe, ndale, komanso kupititsa patsogolo njira zolankhulirana pakati pa anthu achipembedzo/osakhala achipembedzo. Iye ali ndi chidwi ndi momwe maphunziro apamwamba amakhudzira chilimbikitso cha ophunzira kutenga nawo mbali m'madera awo, malingaliro awo okhudzana ndi tsankho kapena / kapena maganizo awo, kumvetsetsa kudzidalira, ndi kulingalira mozama.