Matambudziko Ewanano Yakasanganiswa Inokwidziridzwa neMhirizhonga yeChimiro neMasangano Ehuori
Chii chaitika? Nhoroondo Yekukonana
Musi waChikumi 6, 2012 nenguva dza8:15 PM, Virginia, mukadzi anobva kunyika inotaura chiFrench muAfrica uye amai vevana vana, vakaronga chiitiko chemhirizhonga mudzimba mushure mekunge vambowana nhungamiro kubva kuvashandi vemasangano akasiyana siyana, anoti Office for Youth and. Mhuri ('Jugendamt'), Pekugara Kuvakadzi Vakashungurudzwa ('Frauenhaus') uye Hofisi Yekupindira Kurwisa Mhirizhonga Mudzimba ('Interventionsstelle gegen Gewalt in der Familie'). Virginia akakanda ndiro naMarvin's (= murume wake uye mugari weDemocratic Republic of 'Disgustyria', nyika uko. 'zviri pamutemo' utongi hwemutemo hunotonga uye kodzero dzakakosha uye rusununguko zvinoremekedzwa) kudya kwemanheru pamwe chete nekarafu yemvura pasi peimba yekudyira uye vakadana mapurisa vachishandisa nhamba yekukurumidzira. Sezvo Virginia aive mutsva kuDisgustyria (akatamirako mushure mekuchata naMarvin munyika yekumusha kwake muAfrica mwedzi gumi neimwe chete yapfuura), aingova neruzivo rushoma rwemutauro weko - nekudaro, Marvin akamubatsira nekutaura kero chaiyo kune. mapurisa, sezvo aive nechokwadi chekuti hapana chaatadza uye kuvepo kwemapurisa kuchabatsira kudzoreredza hunhu mumba.
Pakasvika mapurisa pamba apa, Virginia nemaune - achitevera 'zano rakanaka' rakagamuchirwa kubva kumasangano ataurwa pamusoro eDisgustyria - akamonyanisa nyaya yake ndokupa nemaune ruzivo rwezvakaitika kumapurisa, kureva kuti akapomera Marvin kuti ndakamuitira hasha, kusanganisira kushungurudzwa/chisimba. Nekuda kweizvozvo, mapurisa akaraira Marvin kuti agadzirire sutukesi yake mukati memaminitsi gumi uye akapa chirevo chekurambidza kwekutanga kwevhiki mbiri, iyo yakazowedzerwa kusvika kumavhiki mana. Marvin aifanira kuendesa makiyi eimba kumapurisa uye vese Virginia naMarvin vakaperekedzwa kukamba yemapurisa yaive pedyo kuti vanobvunzurudzwa nezvezvakaitika. Kumapurisa Virginia akawedzera manyepo ake achipomera Marvin zvisiri izvo kuti akamudhonza bvudzi ndokumukuvadza mumusoro.
Nekuda kweruzivo rwake rushoma rwemutauro weko, kubvunzurudzwa kwaVirginia kwakarongwa nerubatsiro rwemuturikiri weFrench akapika. Zvakaitika kuti Virginia aipfeka tambo panguva ino uye naizvozvo zvakanga zvisingabviri kuona kukuvara kwemusoro kana Marvin, (akaziviswa kuti 'murwi') akadhonza bvudzi rake. Virginia zvino akachinja chirevo chake nekutsanangura kuti aisanzwisisa mubvunzo wemapurisa ('kukanganwa' chokwadi chokuti akabvunzurudzwa achibatsirwa nemuturikiri akapika), sezvo asinganzwisisi mutauro weko ndokuvazivisa kuti pane kumudhonza bvudzi, Marvin akamusundidzira mufurati uye akazorovera musoro wake kumadziro uye zvino ari kurwara nemusoro zvakanyanya uye akakumbira kutakurwa neamburenzi. kuchipatara chinotevera kunoongororwa zvakadzama. Mhedzisiro yekuongorora iyi yezvokurapa yakanga isina kunaka, kureva kuti chiremba anoongorora HAAGADZI kuona chero ipi zvayo yekukuvara kwemusoro kwaitaurwa zvenhema - hapana inooneka uye hapana inotsigirwa ne-x-Rays mbiri. Zvakabuda pabvunzo dzakadzama idzi zvakange zvisina kunaka.
Pasinei nekupokana kuri pachena uye manyepo mukutaura kwake, kurambidza kwakaramba kuripo - Marvin akadzingwa mumugwagwa. Virginia akasimbirira kuti abvewo mufurati uye kuti apinzwe muShelter yevakadzi vanoshungurudzwa vakatopa 'dziviriro' kwaari nevana vake vana mazuva apfuura, kana 'chinhu chakaipa chinofanira kuitika kumba'.
Iye zvino - mushure memakore anenge mashanu ekuedza kusina zvibereko kwemutemo uye kuenderera mberi kwekushungurudzika kwepfungwa, Marvin
- akarasa kuonana zvachose nevana vake vana (vaviri vavo, Antonia naAlexandro, vaingova nemavhiki matanhatu chete panguva iyo Virginia akaronga chiitiko chemhirizhonga mudzimba) vasingazivi baba vavo uye vanomanikidzwa kukura sehafu- nherera pasina chikonzero(s);
- akanga awanikwa aine mhosva nedare remhuri yekuparadza muchato;
- akarasikirwa nebasa rake rinobhadhara zvakanaka;
- pasinei nekuedza kwake kakawanda kuti aite nhaurirano neaichimbova mudzimai wake, kunyange kuburikidza nekupindira kwe "vasina kwavakarerekera," kutsvaga mhinduro inogamuchirika nekuda kwevana vavo vana ari kuparadzaniswa neaimbova mukadzi wake sezvo 'akadzivirirwa' na. masangano ataurwa pamusoro apa, asingatenderi chero yevakadaro uye nekudaro ari kukonzera zvakananga uye nemaune kukakavara;
- vanotambura nemhirizhonga yemagariro uye kusaziva kwakapararira uye kusashanda zvakanaka mukati mehurongwa hwemitemo, iyo inozivisa pakarepo varume se 'anoshungurudza uye anodzikisira vanababa ku'ATM Card' ichivamanikidza kusangana nepamusoro zvisina kufanira zvisungo zvekutsigira mhuri pasina mukana uri kure kuonana nguva dzose nevana vake.
Nyaya Dzemumwe nemumwe - Manzwisisiro anoita Munhu Mumwe nemumwe Mamiriro ezvinhu uye Sei
Nyaya yaVirginia - Iye ndiye dambudziko.
Nzvimbo: Ndiri mudzimai uye amai vakanaka, uye ndinoshungurudzwa mudzimba.
Nharaunda:
Chengetedzo / Chengetedzo: Ndakasiya nyika yangu muAfrica nemhaka yokuda murume wangu akanga achangoroora uye ndiine tariro yokuremekedzwa uye kubatwa zvine chiremera somukadzi ane kodzero dzake dzose. Ndaitarisirawo kupa vana vangu ramangwana rakanaka. Hapana mukadzi anofanirwa kuitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba uye kutyira hupenyu hwake iye akaroorwa nemurume anozoita chibharo. Kodzero dzevakadzi dzinoda kuremekedzwa uye ndinofara kuti ndakawana masangano muDisgustyria akadzika midzi munharaunda uye ari kushanda nesimba kudzivirira vanaamai nevana kubva kuvarume vavo vanoshungurudza uye vane hutsinye.
Physiological Zvinodiwa: Patakaroorana naMarvin, ndainzwa sokuti ndiri mujeri. Ndakanga ndichangobva kuDisgustyria uye ndisingazivi mutauro weko netsika. Ndakafunga kuti ndaizovimba nemurume wangu, izvo zvakanga zvisina kudaro. Kuvimba kwangu naye kwaibva pavimbiso dzake dzenhema tichiri kugara tose muAfrica tisati taroorana. Somuenzaniso haana kundibvumira kuti nditange kuonana nevamwe vaAfrica vaigara kuno kwenguva yakati. Marvin akasimbirira kuti ndingosara ndiri pamba, ndichengete pfungwa yebasa ra'amai vemba' uye 'amai', izvo zvakaita kuti ndinzwe semukadzi anochenesa. Akarambawo kundipa bhajeti remhuri randaikwanisa kushandisa ndisina kumubvunza zvekutanga….Ini ndakanga ndisingatombotenderwi kutenga ruvara rwezvipikiri ini pachangu. Aichengetawo muhoro wake zvakavanzika. Akanga asina kumbondinakira uye zvaisaita kuti nditaure naye nezwi rakajairika – aigara achipopotera ini nevana. Ini ndinofunga munhu anofarira kurwa pane kudzika runyararo mumba make nemhuri. Haasi baba vakanaka kuvana vake sezvo asina mano okuratidza mirangariro uye kunzwisisa nokuda kwezvinodikanwa zvavo.
Belongingness / Mhuri Mitemo: Chaive chishuwo changu kuva amai uye kuva nemurume tichigara tese semhuri pasi pedenga rimwechete. Ndaidawo kuva mumwe wemhuri yakakura, asi somutorwa uye mukadzi aibva kuAfrica ndaigaroona sokuti mhuri yaMarvin yakanga isingandiremekedzi somudiwa akaenzana. Ndinofunga kuti mhuri yake yakanyanyochengetedza uye ine pfungwa dzakatetepa saka iri kuratidza rudzi rwerusaruraganda kwandiri. Nokudaro, chishuvo changu che'mhuri huru' chakaputsika kubva pakutanga chaipo.
Kuzviremekedza / Kuremekedza: Ndakaroora Marvin nokuti ndaimuda, uye ndakafara kuroorwa uye kutamira nomurume wangu kunyika yaakaberekerwa muna June 2011. Ndinoda kuremekedzwa somukadzi uye amai vakasiya nyika yavo kuti vararame. nemurume uye anotarisana nematambudziko ese emutorwa munyika itsva uye azere netsika dzakasiyana. Ndinoda kupa ramangwana rakachengeteka uye rakagadzikana kuvana vangu kuburikidza nedzidzo yakanaka iyo inofanirwa kuvabatsira kuwana basa rakanaka gare gare. Uyewo vana vangu vanofanira kuremekedzwa - Marvin akanga asiri baba vakanaka uye aivashungurudza.
Nyaya yaMarvin – Iye ('unhu hwake') nemasangano ane huori/mhirizhonga yezvimiro ndiro dambudziko.
Nzvimbo: Ndinoda kubatwa zvine hutongi hunoenderana nezviri pasi pechokwadi - kodzero dzakakosha dzinofanirwa kuchengetedzwa.
Nharaunda:
Chengetedzo / Chengetedzo: Ndinofanira kunzwa ndakachengeteka mumba mangu uye kuvimbika kwangu pamwe chete nekuvimbika kwemhuri yangu zvinofanira kuremekedzwa nemasangano ehurumende, kusanganisira mapurisa. Munyika yedemocracy vanhu havafanirwe kushungurudzwa uye kurangwa zvakaomarara nekuda kwezvisina hwaro, zvakavakwa uye zvechokwadi kupomerwa kwenhema nenhema. Varume nevakadzi vanhu vane kodzero nezvisungo zvakaenzana….Kutanga 'hondo' yevarume namadzibaba pasi peamburera inopokana ye'kusunungurwa' nepfungwa yakagara iripo yokuti varume ndivo 'vanoita chisimba' nguva dzose, uye vakadzi vanogara vachitambudzwa. varume vanoshusha havabate mvura uye vari kure nezvokwadi. Zvirokwazvo haitsigire pfungwa ye'kodzero dzakaenzana dzevarume nevakadzi'….
Physiological Zvinodiwa: Semurume wemhuri ndinoda kuva nevana vangu zuva nezuva kuti ndimise zvisungo zvepfungwa zvakasimba uye zvinogara. Kuita basa rinoita muhupenyu hwavo uye kuva muenzaniso kwavari chinhu chandinotarisira. Ndakavavakira imba uye vaifanira kugara neni, zvekuti amai vavo vaigona kuvaona nguva zhinji sezvavanoda. Vana havafaniri kutambura nemhaka yokuti vabereki vavo vaisakwanisa kugara pamwe chete nenzira yokuremekedza somurume nomudzimai. Ndaisazonyima vana vangu kuonana kwaidiwa namai vavo.
Belongingness / Mhuri Mitemo: Ndakaberekerwa uye ndakakurira mumusha muduku uri kumaodzanyemba kweDisgustyria mumhuri ine vana vashanu. Tsika dzechiKristu uye manzwisisiro emhuri echinyakare, kureva baba, amai nevana, zvinhu zvinokosheswa zvinowanikwa mukati memukati mechimiro chehunhu hwangu. Kurasikirwa nemhuri kuburikidza nemiitiro yakarongwa uye yokutuka kwakadaro kunoparadza uye kunokatyamadza somunhu oga. Vabereki vangu havatombozivi vazukuru vavo….Ndiri kushushikana nekugara zvakanaka kwepfungwa kwevana vangu vana, avo vanoda kuziva kwavanobva – ikodzero yavo kuonana nasekuru nanasekuru, madzitete, vanasekuru, uye vakoma. Ndinonzwa kuti kuziva midzi yavo kwakakosha pakukura kwepfungwa kune hutano. Ko vana vangu vachakudziridza rudzii rwetsika (dzemhuri) kana vasina kumbowana mukana wekuwana mhuri yechokwadi uye vachizokura senherera? Ndiri kunetsekana zvikuru neramangwana revana vangu.
Kuzviremekedza / Kuremekedza: Ini ndinofanira kukwanisa kuvimba nemutemo wemhuri wepamba uye hurongwa hunoshanda hwekururamisira. Kodzero dzinokosha uye rusununguko, kusanganisira kodzero dzemwana, zvinodzorwa zvakakwana nea) Bumbiro remutemo reDisgustyria, b) European Convention of Human Rights, c) UN Charter of Human Rights, d) Chibvumirano cheUN pamusoro peKodzero dzeMwana. Zvakandiomera kuti ndinzwisise kuti sei zviga izvi zvichiregeredzwa nguva dzose, uye kuti hapana nzira dzekuzvisimbisa. Ndinoda kuremekedzwa muchishuvo changu chokuita basa rinoshingaira muupenyu hwevana vangu vana. Ndinoda kuva nekuonana navo kakawanda uye kusingarambidzwi uye ndinoda kuvapa rubatsiro rwemari runodiwa zvakananga kwavari mumativi ese ehupenyu. Ndinoda kuti mashoko angu aremekedzwe uye acherechedzwe nevese vanobatanidzwa uye kuti handiziviswe uye nditongwe se'murodzi', apo humbowo hwese hunosimbisa zvakasiyana. Chokwadi chinoda kuremekedzwa uye kutonga kwemutemo kunofanirwa kutsigirwa.
Mediation Project: Mediation Case Study yakagadzirwa na Martin Harrich, 2017
